Why should I bother to go to Alanon if it won’t make the alcoholic stop drinking? What can I do to make him/her stop? I’m not the problem! The alcoholic is the one with the problem! If they would just do things MY way, everything would be okay!
There are some very good reasons “looking after me” could improve the overall situation. Many times a lot of what we do to try to change the situation actually contributes to the problem and not the solution. We may have a few character defects of our own. Imagine that! And some of these defects may contribute to the family problem, such as wanting to control the situation. When we stop trying to control, the alcoholic stops reacting to our efforts to control.
No, it doesn’t stop the alcoholic from drinking. But in the meantime our attitude ABOUT the problem changes with the realization that we are powerless to cure someone else’s disease and it’s NOT our job to begin with.
“If I concentrate on doing my part right, that has to improve the family situation. Because I am no longer a part of the problem, I am part of the solution.”
Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization, or institution. It is a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We meet every Tuesday at 6:00 p.m. at the Historical Building. Please call 347-5805 or 258-4441 for more information.